New Year, New Decade: What I Thought My Life Would Look Like at 31

Thursday, January 2, 2020

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Happy New Year! And as the saying goes, “new year, new me!” But more than just a new year, this is a new decade. This time 10 years ago, I was on Christmas break preparing for my final semester of college. I was excited for what the future had to hold and had a lot of expectations I planned to meet. Of course, life has a way of working differently than we expect.

I Thought I Would Be Married with Kids: At 31, I am single, and honestly, I’ve never been happier. I don’t talk about my dating life on my blog (but often reference my thoughts on my Instagram page), but I’ve been in two serious relationships that I thought would lead to marriage. They, obviously, did not, but those relationships taught me so much about who I am and who I want to be with.

I’m Living in DC, Not NYC: Growing up, I had Park Avenue dreams. I would work in some glitzy high-rise, have drinks networking at a mixer, and then go back home to my beautiful apartment in downtown. It sounds romantic, but it wasn’t realistic. Ultimately, I moved to DC for graduate school and stayed. I’ll always love NYC, but for now, DC is home.

I’m Not the Librarian of Congress, but She is a Black Woman: After college, I went to graduate school to become a librarian. In fact, this blog originally started out as a hybrid between a fashion blog and my librarian career. But, somewhere between graduate school and finding a job, I realized that the library profession wasn’t for me and left it entirely. I now work in digital marketing, a career I’ve been excelling and thriving in for 8 years now.

I like Pink: Speaking of my fashion sense and growth, 10 years ago, I wasn’t fond of the color pink and I didn’t like dresses and skirts either. I can’t remember what my favorite color was back then, maybe blue or red, but either way, it’s changed a lot.

I’m Happy: I was happy in 2010, but I wasn’t happy. I felt like I wasn’t in control of my life, and I think a lot of young people feel that way. You’re finishing college, unsure what to do next, you have family and friends trying to guide you in the best way they know how (which isn’t always the best way for you), and you feel so much pressure from the outside world. But now, I feel free. Every decision I make is mine. I don’t have anyone trying to lead me, I lead myself. And while that can be scary, it’s also freeing and provides a deeper sense of contentment and happiness.

Even though my life isn’t as I expected it to be at 21, I am no less happy for all the wonderful things that have happened over the last decade, and I am excited to see what this decade holds. Happy 2020!

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